Good Grief

For the past three days, Mira has been texting me pretty consistently about work matters. I think its her own way of dealing with grief. On Sunday, she learned her father passed away. I am a sensitive boy. Church made funerals seem very important. Even when people passed away that I was totally unconscious of, I always held a special reverence for their lives.

Of course, I naturally want to comfort, but it is very apparent that Mira does not want to delve into a touchy feely conversation. And that's how she deals with it. I realize I am privileged to even receive text messages, since her best friend informed me that Mira was only communicating to her. And in her own way she deals with it.

On the other end, the matriarch of our family friends passed away last week. Her granddaughter had repeated breakdowns over the weekend and found sleep at aberrant hours. At the burial site, she broke down to the point she was on the floor asking to be buried with her grandmother.

Two different types of responses to stressful times, both appropriate in their own way. I wonder how I'll react when it happens to me.